In many open relationships and alternative sexuality communities, there is talk about being more “sex positive.” Considering the negative attitudes and beliefs we have all grown up with regarding sexuality in general, and alternative means of expression specifically, this is an admirable goal. However, this could be a more difficult task than many realize. Not only were we exposed to...[ read more ]
Happy New Year! I want to wish you a happy and successful 2020. The New Year is often a time when we reflect on where we are in in life and where we want to be. It’s the time many people make New Year’s resolutions in response to the changes they want to see. Yet time and again, we see...[ read more ]
As a sex therapist who specializes in topics such as open relationships, I often talk with people who are curious and in the initial stages of exploring the thought of opening up their relationship. They often tell me how they are wanting more sexual variety and freedom yet want to know how to do this without destroying their existing relationship....[ read more ]
As both a sex therapist and a person who is in an open marriage, I love to share reliable knowledge about the subjects that come up around open relationships. One of these topics is the concept of old and new relationship energy. Open relationships allow us to enjoy the advantages of both types of energy, and they are both important...[ read more ]
I’ve been noticing a lot lately that there are a number of people who talk about their interest in non-monogamy for months or even years, yet never jump in. What is it that really holds them back? The answer is a number of things, which we will take a look in this article. I’d also love to hear your feedback...[ read more ]
What is the difference between those who are successful in an open relationship and those who aren’t? I am passionate about helping those who want to move into this successfully, because when it is done well, it can be an amazing, satisfying experience. I’ve also seen some absolute train wrecks in terms of failure, which just breaks my heart because...[ read more ]
Opening Your Monogamous Relationship? This is How I Help When we make changes or transitions in our lives and decide to learn new things, we often need to seek out help from those with the experience and knowledge to guide us. This is true whether we are learning a new hobby, making a career change or starting a new business....[ read more ]
The #1 Main Mistake People Make Transitioning from Monogamy to Open Relationships As I work on my new course designed to help people who are wanting to transition from monogamy to open relationships, I’ve been giving a lot of thought to the difference between those who succeed and those who fail. Making mistakes is part of the process, so I...[ read more ]
A lot of what we learned in sexual education was fear based – fear of unintended pregnancy and fear of Sexually Transmitted Infections (STI). Our family, friends, and even the medical community often feed these fears. Healthy sexuality, alternative sexuality (such as polyamorous relationships, kinks and fetishes) or even sexual pleasure were rarely, if ever, discussed. When we increase our...[ read more ]
A topic that needs to be addressed when discussing polyamorous relationships are the physical risks involved. The increased number of sexual partners in non-monogamy means we need to be aware of the risks, so we can take proper precautions with knowledge and understanding. The two largest risks include unintended pregnancies and STI’s (Sexually Transmitted Infections). Reframing Our Sexual Education Growing...[ read more ]