What is the difference between those who are successful in an open relationship and those who aren’t? I am passionate about helping those who want to move into this successfully, because when it is done well, it can be an amazing, satisfying experience. I’ve also seen some absolute train wrecks in terms of failure, which just breaks my heart because...[ read more ]
Opening Your Monogamous Relationship? This is How I Help When we make changes or transitions in our lives and decide to learn new things, we often need to seek out help from those with the experience and knowledge to guide us. This is true whether we are learning a new hobby, making a career change or starting a new business....[ read more ]
The #1 Main Mistake People Make Transitioning from Monogamy to Open Relationships As I work on my new course designed to help people who are wanting to transition from monogamy to open relationships, I’ve been giving a lot of thought to the difference between those who succeed and those who fail. Making mistakes is part of the process, so I...[ read more ]
A lot of what we learned in sexual education was fear based – fear of unintended pregnancy and fear of Sexually Transmitted Infections (STI). Our family, friends, and even the medical community often feed these fears. Healthy sexuality, alternative sexuality (such as polyamorous relationships, kinks and fetishes) or even sexual pleasure were rarely, if ever, discussed. When we increase our...[ read more ]
A topic that needs to be addressed when discussing polyamorous relationships are the physical risks involved. The increased number of sexual partners in non-monogamy means we need to be aware of the risks, so we can take proper precautions with knowledge and understanding. The two largest risks include unintended pregnancies and STI’s (Sexually Transmitted Infections). Reframing Our Sexual Education Growing...[ read more ]
Many people have heard about Kegels or other PC (pubococcygeal) muscle exercises to strengthen their pelvic floor muscles. These exercises aren’t just for women, even though they are typically directed towards women’s use of them. After all, they not only tighten vaginal walls, it can increase sexual desire and help women better achieve and have stronger orgasms. In men, they...[ read more ]
When you were a child, what names did your parents or parental figures give to your genitals? How about those of the opposite sex? How did those names change as you got older, such as when talking to peers, or even partners? In general, there is a great deal of societal discomfort in talking about genitals, and that reaches broadly....[ read more ]
I don’t like the term “erectile dysfunction”, because this is an issue that happens to every man at some time in their life, therefore, I call it erectile difficulties, or erection problems. These erection difficulties are also varied in who they effect. Both young men in their twenties and thirties, as well as experienced men in their 60’s, as well...[ read more ]
I’ve been spending a lot of time talking about open relationships and the transition to them from monogamy. We address a number of topics in my private Facebook group, and one that was important to address was the issue of erection problems. In my practice as a therapist specializing in sex and healthy relationships, I have seen numerous couples and...[ read more ]
Early on when exploring an open relationship, it seems like setting rules is the right thing to do because it creates a sense of security. Opening the relationship does indeed create a new dynamic that can bring up insecurities and fear, and that in turn creates a need to control in order to feel safe again. Because one partner wants...[ read more ]