If you struggle with your emotions, or the emotions of other people, you are not alone. In fact, nearly 2/3 of people are not able to understand the emotions they are feeling and react appropriately. Often when this happens, we feel out of control or that our emotions are in charge of us, rather than the other way around. Our...[ read more ]
Sexuality is evolving for those who are open and curious about it. As I begin to launch a course for those looking at making a transition from monogamy to open relationships, I will be addressing some questions I get from those just new to exploring the possibility, or who have just begun their journey. For some this means they may...[ read more ]
As part of our new Facebook Group: A Successful Transition from Monogamy to Open, we are talking about a variety of topics within the realm of open relationships. While the group is designed for people who are exploring and considering an open relationship, or have been involved for years, I wanted to take some time to define some of the...[ read more ]
If you and/or your partner have been considering opening your relationship, you likely have a ton of questions about what makes it work. In this two-part series, we will take a look at the advantages and potential problems that come with choosing to have an open relationship. If you are like me, you’d rather learn from the mistakes of others...[ read more ]
If you and/or your partner have been considering opening your relationship, you likely have a ton of questions about what makes it work. In this two-part series, we will take a look at the advantages and potential problems, that come with choosing to have an open relationship. We will start here with the positive results I’ve seen come from them,...[ read more ]
Sex and sexuality. Even the words can cause many in our Western society to immediately tense up. We have been taught to consider the mere mention of the subject taboo and a simple conversation of the subject in poor taste. Yet why? Sexuality starts when life starts. It is an innate part of the human condition, a part of every...[ read more ]
In my last blog we looked at the difference between sex and sexuality. Today, I wanted to share more about the varying views of sexuality in our culture. For people raised in Western culture, sexuality begins and thrives with fear, then becomes enhanced by misinformation, shame and embarrassment. There is also significant misunderstanding, enhanced by lack of accurate education about...[ read more ]
In my last blog I introduced the idea of the American view of sex. In this blog, I will expand further on the ramifications of such beliefs and its counter, the sex positive movement. Much of Western society’s beliefs about sexuality are based on fear: • fear of pregnancy • fear of sexually transmitted infections • fear of loss of...[ read more ]
If you have done any therapy or self-help, you have likely learned that many of us are taught patterns of behavior during our young years that stop being helpful in our adulthoods. This becomes most clear when we are in relationships- whether romantic or non. Relationships are were we come face-to-face with our bad habits and patterns, and when this...[ read more ]
In couple’s therapy, one of the most common problems is with communication. When we work on this skill, rather than simply repeating the same old, ineffective patterns we were taught while growing up, we can have better relationships. RDS, or Revolving Discussion Sequence, is one technique used to improve communication. While each step itself sounds simple, they each carry an...[ read more ]