Often when people first come to see me they are frustrated with their sex life. They wonder what happened to the exciting sex life they used to have with their partner, or they feel like they are missing something, leading to guilt, embarrassment, fear and shame. They ask how they got to this point in their life and/or relationship. Believing...[ read more ]
As humans we have many emotions; some of which feel good and others that don’t feel so good and are challenging to learn how to manage. The big four negative emotions are fear, shame, embarrassment and guilt. These are not emotions we want to eliminate, as they all serve a purpose, however we do need to know how to manage...[ read more ]
Many of the clients I see come to me with shame because of their sexual desires. They may have come to the end of their rope emotionally, wondering what is wrong with them and how they can overcome it. Unlike fear which is a primal survival mechanism, shame is a learned emotion. We likely experienced shame for the first time...[ read more ]
More and more men and women are coming to me with complaints about the lack of sex or any enthusiasm for sexual variety in their relationships. While, it seems to be a running joke that once a man gets married, he should expect to not have sex any more, the fact is that when couples come in for low sexual...[ read more ]
The term “open relationship” refers to a relationship style that is consensually non-monogamous. There are different ways these relationships can work and fall on a spectrum of commitment levels. If the concept of open relationships is new to you, this will help you understand a bit more about the most common types including polyamory, swinging, and designer relationships. Our society...[ read more ]
In the last couple hundred years, the belief, at least in the western world, is that two people meet, fall in love, fulfill all of each other’s needs and live happily ever after as soul-mates. However, the 50% divorce rate over the last half century, and infidelity rates falling between 40-70%, leads some to question whether monogamy is the best...[ read more ]