How to Be Successful in an Open Relationship

What is the difference between those who are successful in an open relationship and those who aren’t? I am passionate about helping those who want to move into this successfully, because when it is done well, it can be an amazing, satisfying experience. I’ve also seen some absolute train wrecks in terms of failure, which just breaks my heart because it doesn’t have to be that.

When starting out, there are a lot of little mistakes, yet when you add them up, it makes all the difference between success and failure. Even many of the people who are successful, have made many of these mistakes, yet if you can avoid some the difficulties those bring, you can get to the joyous, fun, adventurous and satisfying parts faster.

So, what’s really the difference?

Stumbling is different than failure as well. Many of us who transition into open relationships have made mistakes along the way. This is one way we learn, and especially learn what is best for us.

It’s part of the process to stumble, but one mistake, that applies to everyone that attempts an open relationship, and it’s far more dangerous than the others, which means you need to know it and avoid it in order to create a foundation for success. This number one mistake? A lack of understanding and preparation.

Lack of Understanding = Lack of Preparation

This big mistake creates multiple issues because not really understanding what support you need when choosing to transition from monogamy to open relationships, means you won’t be prepared for the variety of issues that will come up. This can lead to new emotions that you aren’t sure how to process, changes in how you need to communicate and negotiate your relationship terms, and more.

This type of change is a big shift in your relationship and requires foundation building and communication, neither of which are the fun part of an open relationship. This work seems to slow everything down, which is against our human nature, especially with the idea of sexual adventures we’ve only dreamed of, just a fingertip away. However, they are important in order to protect your primary relationship, which is vital to making the transition from monogamy to open the successful, enjoyable, and fulfilling experience it can be.

I offer several resources on the topic of open relationships, including a book, webinar, private Facebook community, training/coaching program and personalized individual, couple or group counseling/coaching. I would love to be a resource for you, so let’s schedule some time to discuss your needs and make a plan that works best for you. Let’s work on building a strong foundation so you can be prepared for a successful transition from monogamy to open that gives you the variety and freedom you crave without destroying the relationship you already have.

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